I listened to a sermon by Andy Stanley of North Point Community Church…
Love is often confused with passion. To test if you loved that someone you claimed to from your past, ask yourself if you still love them now. Usually the answer is no. You can have passion or chemistry with almost anyone. You have had it several times already with someone you met for the first time at a party or someone you have only seen once.
A married couple rarely breaks up over a “marriage” problem (ex: financial issue). The more likely cause is two people with individual problems got married and getting married did not evaporate their individual problems. One of the greatest myths is that all of your problems will disappear if you JUST meet that right person. LIE.
Individual problems are defined here as not knowing the work required for a relationship or bad habits you may have but essentially not embodying the definition of love. The definition of love is being patient, considerate, encouraging and honoring of that other person (1 Cor 13).
Therefore we should not spend our time searching for love, rather we should spend it becoming the embodiment of the person we are looking for. We should practice being patient, considerate, encouraging and honorable right away. Wouldn’t it be devastating if tomorrow you met the right person yet they do not return your feelings because you were not ready?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13
photo credit by Artist Jonathan Wright: http://www.saatchionline.com/art/Installation-Mixed-Media-RARE-LOVE/76033/1309804/view#