I have seen people give up early or not believe in themselves mainly due to the people around them wanting to take care of them and not giving them the chance to fall. Many people will pity a woman in a difficult situation that they wouldn’t think twice about if a man were in. Although it may appear as helping I feel it is actually hurting. Please watch her fall cause that’s the only way she can grow. If you help her it means you aren’t giving her a chance, a chance that she may want. Thank you for the good analogy Sheryl Sandberg:

“Imagine that a career is like a marathon – a long, grueling, and ultimately rewarding endeavor. Now imagine a marathon where both men and women arrive at the starting line equally fit and trained. The gun goes off. The men and women run side by side. The male marathoners are routinely cheered on: “Lookin’ strong! On your way!” But the female runners hear a different message. “You know you don’t have to do this!”

Another example from Sheryl Sandberg:

“Years ago, I met an investment banker in New York whose husband worked in public service. She told me that over the years all of her female friends in banking quit, but because she was her family’s primary bread winner, she had to stick it out. There were days when she was jealous and wished she could leave, days when there was too much to do or too much crap to put up with. But she did not have that option. Eventually, she landed in a position that had less crap and more impact. Now when she looks back, she is glad that even in the hard times, she continued in her career. Today, she has a close relationship with her children and now that they have grown up and moved away, she’s especially grateful to have a fulfilling job.”